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Boom, shake the room, Fire Nation, JLD here in welcome to Entrepreneurs On Fire brought to you by the HubSpot Podcast Network with great shows like the shakeup today, we'll be focusing on the full spirit workout to drop these value bombs. I brought Kate Eckman into EOFire studios. Kate is the author of The Full Spirit Workout. She's a success coach for leaders and business and sports and elite athlete and performance in mindfulness experts. And today Fire Nation, we talking about spiritual fitness and how it can transform your life. The five PS of confidence. And also we know the human being struggled with anxiety, comparison, fear, judgment, stress, and so much more.

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So while other companies give you too many options, zip recruiter finds you the needle in the haystack. And right now you can try ZipRecruiter for free at ziprecruiter.com/fire. Kate's say what's up to Fire Nation and share something that you believe about becoming successful that most people disagree with.

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Yeah. First of all, hi, to all of your beautiful audience members, it's a pleasure to connect with all of you. And of course, John, and what comes to mind for me is that we need to spend more time sitting quietly in a room alone. That's inspired by blaze. Pascal's beautiful quote that all of humanity's problems stem from. Man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. I think we need to become more practiced at listening, and I'm not talking about our ego mind that tells us we're not good enough and compares us to what John and Sally and Suzy are doing and how we don't quite add up. I'm talking about that divine wisdom that is available to us at all times. We just have to download it like we would a computer file into our minds, into our hearts, into our bodies, let it live there as the wisdom and the truth that it is, this is the divine intelligence that turns an acorn into an Oak tree and an embryo into a baby, knowing and believing and trusting that this is always working for us behind the scenes, even when we're sleeping.

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And we can tap into this at any time. And we just aren't practiced at listening. We're listening to all the nonsense, the noise and the distractions and the chaos of the world. And we aren't spending that time alone, practicing the listening, practicing the art of doing nothing. Because when we do this, we become the men and women who can naturally attract our experiences, our opportunities, the relationships, the money we don't have to strive or grit our teeth or force or try to control to make anything happen. We attract it more naturally. Does that make sense

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Of all this? And the reason why it makes so much sense is because I used to struggle with this a lot. It's like I struggled at one point in my life with being alone and I just kind of always written it off by saying, Hey, I'm just a massive extrovert. I just love being around people. I love having conversations. I love interactions, but there was always something missing. And it really has been over this past decade of, of speaking to people who are just a lot more experienced, a lot more knowledgeable than me in the areas of spiritualism and meditation and journaling, that I've really realized that there's a massive power and just calmness and satisfaction that comes with like really being able to and enjoying being by yourself in Fire Nation. This is a skill that you can absolutely acquire if you currently don't have it.

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And there's a reason why Kate wrote the book, the full spirit workout. So let's kind of talk about what exactly spiritual fitness is and even more specifically how it can transform our lives.

1 (4m 17s):
Absolutely. So just like we have to go to the gym and work out our physical muscles to combat against gravity and keep our muscles up. Otherwise they're going down. We have to train our mental and emotional, our attitudinal muscles to combat against emotional gravity, like fear, stress, anxiety, COVID-19 comparison, judgment, anything that weighs us down and spiritual fitness is about having the courage to show up. Like you mean it with that Gusto in that presence, but also the courage to not just be that perfect put together person that we present to the world or to Instagram, but that messy, you know, beautifully flawed person behind the scenes, just trying to keep it all together.

1 (5m 4s):
He or she is, is beautiful and relatable quite frankly, and authentic. So this is building a strong, inner core and musculature so that we have the confidence and resilience to weather. Any storm

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In Fire Nation, there will be storms. I mean, I do love that quote because it is so true as a winter is coming, but guess what? So isn't spring and summer and fall. And that's why you need to make sure that you're prepared for winter. So you can thrive when spring, summer and fall are in full bloom. And let's just be honest gates. So many people in this world, they struggle. They struggle with anxiety. With comparison, with fear, with judgment was stress. Let's talk through how we can overcome these things, these struggles, these obstacles, these challenges that we all face as human beings.

1 (5m 54s):
Yeah. And thank you for saying that because I think there's this myth notion that if you look a certain way or achieve a certain level of success, that you don't struggle. I think the quicker that we can own that struggling is part of the human experience, the sadness that the bad days, let's normalize that experiencing something sad, it's appropriate, that we are sad. And I think the more that we can just embrace our humanity and then come to terms with, okay, let's not dwell here. Let's not cuddle our weaknesses or neuroses, but let's remember our strengths and, and spend some time identifying and then leveraging our strengths and our unique gifts. And that comes from having a purpose greater than ourselves.

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And I'll, I'll talk about this later and the five-piece of confidence, but you know, you write a book, I'm sure you've heard this. And everyone in their mother says, oh, I want to write a book. And I think, okay, great. Why do you want to write a book? And some of the reasons I hear, I think, oh gosh, they're going to have a really rough time or miserable experience because their, why is in the externals like money or fame or notoriety. And there's nothing wrong with money or fame or notoriety. I love it as much as the next person, but that's not going to keep you going on on the days when it gets really hard. So for me, my why in writing this book is salmon Roth. The two men who I love too, were dear friends and an ex boyfriend that I lost to suicide in one year.

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And on the days when things are really tough for anything, or for any reason, they keep me going. They are my why everyone who struggles with mental health is my why. And by the way, that's everybody, that's all of us. We all struggle with mental health in some way,

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Fire Nation. It is so true in some way, shape or form. We are all struggling with mental health. I mean, I know that it was very obvious to me back in my twenties, when I got back from my deployment to Iraq, that I was dealing with forms of PTSD and depression. And then there's been some times that I've been just doing really well in life. And it had some great things happening for long periods of time, but I was still wake up some mornings and being like, why do I feel like I'm in a funk? Why do I feel like I'm kind of out of it right now? Like everything seems to be so aligned, but the world's just not this cut and dry place. Like there's a lot that's going on in our bodies and our minds and our lives both consciously and subconsciously. And Kate, you talk, you talked briefly about the five and how we were going to get into these five PS of confidence taken away.

1 (8m 22s):
Thank you. This is one of my favorite things to talk about. I conducted some pretty intense research while getting my master's degree at Columbia. And I love these because they're for free. You can access them anytime and then really build upon them. So the first is presence and this is not just being present in the moment and, and shutting down the distractions and being all there with whoever is in front of you, even if it's just yourself and you know, a way to know if you're not present, I'm sure we've all experienced your pet or some kids you've been around call you out like, hello, why are you on your phone? What is cuter or more adorable than me? Hello? So I think just really committing to being present wherever you are, and with whomever you're with, and also presence showing up like you mean it.

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And you've got something to say, and that's what the full spirit is. It's bringing your authentic truth and power to everything you do. And everyone you meet, let's go, you know, it's not quite midnight, but it's 1145. We all need to get it together and really start flexing our strengths and our inner confidence. The second P is patience and patience actually stems from the Latin word for suffering. So no wonder, we all struggle a bit with being patient because we're struggling while we're suffering while we wait for the thing that we really want. But a story I'd love to illustrate patients is 20 years ago, the country singer Shelby Lynne won best new artist at the Grammys.

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And when she accepted her award, this is the only speech I've ever remembered. She said, best new artist. It's only taking me 13 years and six albums to get here. And I'll never, never forget that because we all think she must be nice to be her. She just showed up last year, oh, she's this new artist winning a Grammy. But really it had been so many years of the making. And none of us saw all that behind the scenes, chaos and setback and frustration and stress. So keep going, keep putting one foot in front of the other exercise, your surrender muscle and, and you'll, and you'll get there. The next P is purpose. That's your why? So why is this important to you right now?

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And the days you can't show up for yourself, show up for your family, show up for your community, show up for a cause or organization greater than yourself. And that will keep you going. The next P is preparation. So when we are prepared, we build better habits that lead to improved behaviors that lead to increased results, better results. And that of course boosts our confidence and the next P is practice. And you know, this, I, I get this image of Tom Brady. He comes to mind. He and I were both big 10 athletes at the same time. You know, I was swimming at Penn state. He was playing football at Michigan. And you know, he's still winning super bowls. And my knees hurt when I go to Pilates.

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So I Bel down to Tom Brady and I say, Tom trains harder than anyone practices more than anyone. Not because he's the worst, but because he's the best. So your talent merits investment, you have to practice, the rewards will be worth it. And you know, recently I've come up with two bonus piece that I'd love to share with you and your audience. I love you guys. And that is pause as in then that's what spiritual fitness is. It's, it's about non-reactivity and stillness. So pausing, even though you really want to tell the jerk, he's being a jerk. You really want to answer that upsetting email immediately and get your point, but taking a pause, taking a breath, relaxing a bit in between those meetings, thinking about what you really want to say, and don't betray yourself by, you know, perhaps saying something that could ruin a relationship or, or a business opportunity.

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And then the second bonus P is person as in be a person. And my speaking coach, Eduardo always says this to me, just be a fricking person. Meaning if you're anything like me, you're a bit obsessive. You, you are always striving for perfection or you're obsessed with performance. That's certainly been something I've had to overcome. And by just being a freaking person, it means we're, we're being authentic. We're being relatable. We're, you know, showing our humanity and that's good enough. And that's what really bonds us with people and helps us connect more deeply with others

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Fire Nation. That was a fire hose of peas really quickly. That was presence. Patients' purpose. Why is this important? Like, why is this important to you? You going to be asking these questions, preparation, practice, you know, foundation. I love talking about putting in the reps practice and then those two bonuses, pause, and person. And if you think Kate is even close to done dropping these value bombs, we're going to be talking about some really cool things. When we get back from thanking our sponsors, recent data shows that of all female owned businesses. It is estimated that one in three is owned by a mom ever wonder how these amazing moms and dads find the time to hire for their business while juggling their families.

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We're

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Giving you a game plan here. So we're not just blindly leading. This is about making intentional, deliberate, conscious choices. Every day. This system is directional. It's not linear. It is like going to the gym. Maybe today. It's like, I've only got five minutes to stretch. Maybe the next day you're doing an hour of high intensity. It really is tuning into what you need. And, and I refer back to my book all the time. I think that's the other myth like, oh, you wrote the book, you don't need it. And it's just like saying Tom Brady doesn't have to work out because he's won a super bowl. So I think honoring ourselves by continuing to do the work, but I've made these exercises really fun, really interactive. All the feedback I've gotten is that they feel like it's their best friend talking to them and really guiding them through this.

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And I made it fun so that you actually wanted to do it. And you would come back. A man said to me last week, you know, this is a life resource tool you can turn to again and again. And it has the real life experiences and stories. It has the journaling exercises meditations, which are also available on my website to listen to I do my coach, Kate check-ins at the end of each step too, because I know not everyone can afford executive coaching for instance. So asking you the really heartfelt, but gritty tough questions to get underneath the hood of the car, really get clear about who you are, what you want, not what you, not, what you just want, but what you really want. I think what we want is often based on societal standards, we don't even believe in what mom and dad want for us, what our friends are doing.

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This is I put as a writer, I put really an italic. So what do you really want? And spending some time there and having the affirmations and the mantras. But this is really the exercise system you can turn to again and again, but like physical exercise, you can't just show up at the gym and your cute outfit and expect your trainer to do all the reps for you. You do have to do the pushups and sit-ups the spiritual setups by yourself. You have to put in the work, but it is so rewarding. And then you, you really are sharpening your sword and your fine tuning your instrument so that your default setting is, is bringing in the, the success and the goals and the opportunities rather than looking for it on the outside, because I'm sure you've experienced John.

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You know, we get the thing, we get the shiny object. We get the money, the promotion, the house, the car, and we're super happy for 20 minutes. And then it's onto the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. And that's what science says too. And all of my research is that all of the shiny objects and things that we think are going to make us happy, actually don't move the needle for our wellbeing. What moves the needle are things like sleep, exercise, time of fluence, social connection, acts of kindness and service and my personal favorite, a gratitude visit that I write about in the book where you're thinking of someone and I'd love everyone to do this right now.

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Think of someone who has profoundly changed your life for the better who you've never properly thanked, right? That person, a 300 word letter, thanking them and expressing your appreciation and then call them up and say, you want to visit. Don't tell them why and read them the letter. And what happens when you do this is that you cry, the other person cries. You have this deep lifetime bond and your well-being meter skyrockets, not just that day, but for weeks and months and years to come, you

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Are so right though about the progressive realization of goals. And the fact that when you do achieve that goal, you're not just like, okay, like my life is now just sipping margaritas by the pool. It's like, what is that? Next thing you may enjoy that for 20 minutes. Some people 20 days, whatever that might be. But there is that quote by Earl Nightingale, which I so believe in, which is success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal. And if you think about that, he didn't say success is the realization of a worthy goal or ideal. It's the progressive realization, meaning it's the progress you're making towards achieving that worthy goal or ideal.

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It's the journey itself, not the destination. And you also mentioned Tom Brady a few times. I mean, I've been a new England Patriots fan for life. So six of his seven Superbowl rings in a patch uniform, which of course I love. And I was definitely rooting for him as a Tampa bay QB for sure. And you yourself had a 17 year competitive swimming career. So how did that specifically help shape this book? The full spirit workout? Yeah,

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I mean, athletics were my life and I knew how hard I had to train my physical muscles to compete at a high level for so many years. And I thought there must be a way to train these inner muscles because, you know, I was experiencing the material success and I was, had a forward facing career in New York city and had all the bells and whistles of a life that I should have felt really, really complete and fulfilled and it should have been meaningful. And it wasn't. And I talked very openly about my struggles and, and a dark moment in a Twain Reed pharmacy across from Penn station where I contemplated, you know, taking pills because I was in so much pain following the death of, of my beloved to suicide.

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And I had to get really clear in that moment to call it a wake up call is, is, you know, such an understatement, but it is that those moments where we decide who do I really want to be and what am I going to do about this? And for me, it wasn't just getting by or, or having a so-so life. I thought I really, really want to come up with these tools and these keys and the swimming career certainly gave me the discipline and the drive. I knew what it meant to be a great teammate and really show up and show up early or on time that my swim coach really ingrained in me, but it also gave me that spirit of excellence and that, you know, life isn't always going to be easy.

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And sometimes you don't want to show up, you don't want to put in the work, you're tired. And so take a break, but then really come back. And for me, this book is so much bigger than myself. It really is about giving people the tools and the keys to a better way of living. And I'm right there with you. I don't pretend that, you know, I'm a lightened boot and Buddha on the mountain who doesn't still have to do the work, but I think having this connection with others and building this community, and I just can't even imagine how fantastic the world will be and how elevated it will be when we are all working on getting fit on the inside and sharing this, this practice and this, this relief and this strength and confidence, the genuine confidence that can't be taken away with everyone around us.

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I love all of this and Fire Nation. This is why you need to fall in love with the idea of getting a full spirit workout in your life. So give us one value bomb. The one big takeaway that you want to make sure our listeners get from everything that we're talking about here today, then give us your final call to action. And then we'll say goodbye.

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What comes to mind? I'm, I'm, I'm trying, I'm feeling a little emotional. And I think it's because I see how much everyone is struggling. Even people who look like they're not there, there's some inner battles that, that we all face from time to time. And I think we, we're all guilty of falling asleep to the truth of who we are. And so I just would like to kindly, but very fiercely remind you how powerful you are and that you can do anything. Absolutely. Anything that you decide is important enough. So what's up what matters, you know, w we are reaching midnight, like I said, but we're not in full crisis mode yet, but we need your gifts. We need your strengths. I believe in you. And, and I think you believe in yourself too.

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You've just forgotten because you're, you're subscribed and plugged into a really sick society. So unplugged from that plug into your truth and your inner wisdom. And let's go, I really am excited to see what everyone, you know, accomplishes, not just in the external world, but the accomplishment of getting to know and love yourself and create that, that, you know, unbreakable unshakable, full bodied confidence,

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Let's go Fire Nation. And where do you want Fire Nation to go to learn more about this book, to get any added value you may have along with us, break it down for sure.

1 (23m 49s):
So go to Kate Eckman, that's K A T E E C K M A N.tv. Like the tube that you watch, you can go to TheFullSpiritWorkout.com for more information on the book, you can buy it there, or any place that books are sold, bookstores are online and there's the free book meditations on my website. So that will really take you on a journey. I mix them with high frequencies to really help you connect more deeply with yourself. And it's really just an uplifting community and a place where we're not in comparison or judgment. We really are in a place of collaboration and community

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Fire Nation. You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. And you've been hanging out with KE and JLD today. So keep up that heat. If you head over to EOFire.com and just type Kate, K A T E in the search bar, her show's page will pop up with everything we've talked about today. Best show notes in the biz. And of course, head over to the full spirit workout.com to learn more about what we've been talking about here today, and to pick up your copy of Kate's great book and Kate, thank you for sharing your truth, your knowledge, your value with Fire Nation today, for that we salute you and we'll catch you on the flip side.

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Thank you so much. Be well, my friend,

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