Scott Allender is an expert in global leadership and organizational development. Certified EQ coach and Enneagram Teach, and cohost of the popular Evolving Leader podcast, Scott is committed to helping leaders everywhere become more radically self-aware.

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The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence – Get a copy of Scott’s book!

3 Value Bombs

1) The most successful individuals deeply connect with their authentic selves, understand what they truly want, and align their pursuits with those values.

2) EQ is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and the emotions of those around you.

3) Your body, heart, and brain all provide valid information; integrating them is essential rather than favoring one.

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Show Notes

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Today’s Audio MASTERCLASS: Why Healing & Wholeness Must Be at The Center of Building Lasting Emotional Intelligence with Scott Allender

[1:37] – Scott shares something he believes about becoming successful that most people disagree with.

• He believes that the most successful individuals deeply connect with their authentic selves, understand what they truly want, and align their pursuits with those values.

[3:24] – What is EQ, and why does EQ matter more than your skills, knowledge, or experiences?

• EQ is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and the emotions of those around you.
• EQ is crucial for success, as high IQ and skills may not be enough without emotional intelligence.
• Over 70% of success or failure can be attributed to emotional intelligence.
• The ability to feel your feelings and interpret their messages is crucial to EQ.

[5:42] – When developing our emotional intelligence, what are we getting wrong?

• Scott believes that traditional approaches to emotional intelligence can be too logical and rational and may not address the underlying emotional experiences that drive behavior.
• Instead, they suggest a personality-driven approach to develop a more balanced and self-aware dynamic intelligence profile.
• Developing interoceptive sensitivity involves understanding the signals that come from your body and how they contribute to your emotional responses.

[8:23] – JLD’s Enneagram is 8, a challenger.

[8:54] – How can the enneagram help us become more self-aware?

• The Enneagram is a personality typing system that identifies nine types, each motivated by a different need.
• 9 Personality Typing System:

1. 1. Motivated by a need to perfect themselves and the world around them.
   2. Motivated by a need to please others to feel liked and wanted.
   3. Motivated by the need to be successful or appear successful at all costs and avoid failure at all costs.
   4. Motivated by a need to be unique and special.
   5. Motivated by a need to be competent and have knowledge and be able to guard themselves against threats of the world.
   6. Motivated by a need to try to feel safe through questioning and risk assessment and trying to protect themselves and others.
   7. Motivated by a need to be without limitations and constricted in any way.
   8. Motivated by a need to avoid being controlled by other people, and therefore avoid any vulnerability and motivated thus by the need to be strong and appear strong.
   9. Motivated by a need to avoid conflict at all costs.

• The Enneagram explains the unconscious stories and wounding messages that inform your ego responses and gives you a map to move beyond your type and access other types for personal growth and transcendence.

[12:48] – A timeout to thank our sponsors!

• HubSpot: HubSpot CRM’s powerful tools will help marketers WOW prospects, sales teams lock in deals, and service teams improve response times and overall service. Get started for free at HubSpot.com!
• FranBridge: Many EOFire listeners have launched franchises in a variety of industries outside of food – and FranBridge Consulting has guided them to these premier opportunities! Sign up for a free consultation with Jon – or get a free copy of his book, “Non-Food Franchising” – at FranBridgeConsulting.com!

[15:47] – Scott explains why it is essential to understand how other people perceive the world to achieve success more quickly.

• The Enneagram teaches you that there are at least 9 different ways people see the world, and an advanced study includes 27 different ways.
• Understanding your perspective and how others see and feel about things is essential to communicate effectively and building stronger relationships.
• The point of self-awareness isn’t just to acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses, but to grow past the limitations of your egos and understand others better.

[17:40] – How can you value your emotions and instincts more in the real world?

• In organizations, emotions are often dismissed as hindrances to rationality, but that is only a problem if you ignore or deny them.
• Emotions are essential, providing the information you cannot get through rational processing alone.
• By normalizing feelings and checking in with team members about their emotions, you can bring them into conscious awareness and better understand how they affect your behavior.

[20:30] – Scott’s takeaway

• Your body, heart, and brain all provide valid information; integrating them is essential rather than favoring one.
• Practices like mindfulness, meditation, body scans, breath work, and yoga can help realign these elements and improve well-being and success.

[21:20] – Scott gives his call to action.

• ScottAllender.com – Live a life of wholeness and success!
• The Evolving Leader Podcast – Scott’s podcast
• The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence – Get a copy of Scott’s book!

[22:52] – Thank you to our Sponsors!

• HubSpot: HubSpot CRM’s powerful tools will help marketers WOW prospects, sales teams lock in deals, and service teams improve response times and overall service. Get started for free at HubSpot.com!
• FranBridge: Many EOFire listeners have launched franchises in a variety of industries outside of food – and FranBridge Consulting has guided them to these premier opportunities! Sign up for a free consultation with Jon – or get a free copy of his book, “Non-Food Franchising” – at FranBridgeConsulting.com!

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